But you're suspicious as hell, because this is the exact thing people do when they're accused online and want to refute it. Thompson says in his YouTube video, “Anxiety Presents in Multiple Ways,” that many class clowns like he used to be as a middle-schooler often resort to hiding behind a flamboyant persona as a coping mechanism for anxiety. com/2018/05/15/critical-reflections-on-the-pathological-demand-avoidance-debate-a-response-to-the-practice-mk-blog-and-discussion/ (Accessed 08 November 2018). I understood that violence was not a part of this Autistic individual’s inherent being, rather his meltdown was likely in response to the context and triggers of a culture that doesn’t accommodate social disability in a way that mitigates this reaction.

K-R ) We both enter an almost Zen mode where we are both doing what we want to do, but we are doing it together with no demands or relenting control on either side.Even past toddlerhood, your kid might continue to dig their heels in on doing homework, eating healthy foods, or getting up in the morning. Caring for a child or young person with additional needs or disability is tiring and, in a big county like Cambridgeshire, can be extremely isolating.

Non-violence allows me to acknowledge the depth of my pain and disconnect with my son, as well as his with me, while also laying out a path towards reconciliation. I also need the word “violence” if I am going to fully acknowledge how I unknowingly perpetuated it in my own home before I came to understand how my son’s brain worked -- the moments when I demanded that my Autistic son look at me, answer me, when I moved his body against his will, shut him behind closed doors for “time-outs” or insisted that he eat something he registered as a threat to his safety. So I was interested in PDAer Harry Thompson’s blog post about an Autistic son who breaks his mother’s arm during a meltdown.As time went on, we adapted and changed our parenting style to a more child led style and the violence reduced until it was only happening when he was going through a development jump or growth spurt. This contradicts frequent terminology within the neurodiversity movement of label first language (autistic person). For one information of the wider world is present in monotropism cognition, yet a person will be unaware of that information if attention resource is not interacting with that information. And when I then second guess my position later, I remind myself that when Cooper is old enough to fully grasp his different brain wiring, which I have been explaining to him without any labels at all, I will simply ask him his preference.

So many professionals get it wrong recently I have been told that my 4yo is not autistic because he chooses to deliberately behave as he does. A person who identifies with Demand Avoidance Phenomenon (DAP, commonly known as Pathological Demand Avoidance) named Harry Thompson has produced a video critiquing a talk by Damian Milton on alternative explanations for DAP. They should consider pans pandas but that is just as neglected and many thrown in psych wards instead of the inflammation treated in the right way. By sharing this, I also seek to acknowledge, validate, support, and truly see other parents of PDA children.We were asked to leave several mother and toddler groups and therapy groups because when he attacked me, it was relentless, intense and full on. But that does not make it impossible for us to become aware of these risks, identify the challenges in our own lives, and acknowledging the pain we ’ve caused in the past or continue to cause in the present.