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For example, one study that conducted in-depth interviews of seven men and seven women who reported sexual abuse by a female perpetrator, most of whom experienced severe sexual abuse by their mothers, found a range of long-term damaging effects. Victims reported and/or experienced depression, difficulties with substance abuse, self-injury, increased suicide rate, rage, strained relationships with women, identity issues, and discomfort with sex (Denov, 2004). Because this is awfully close. Especially the hand-boob action. (Benefit of doubt: Maybe it was an accident?) [ Image via INF]
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You speak of mutual attraction… Well maybe to you this would feel sordid, but to me, maybe not. Maybe you read my case, which is posted above, maybe you misunderstood how and why I ended up in a [consenting] sexual relationship with my mother ? It wasn;t a deliberate act, nor was it the work of one party over the other… These things just happen sometimes, right or wrong… And as time passses we regret them yes, but I can NOT bring myself to find it sordid or distressing. Lucetta Thomas reported that after her story of mother-son sexual abuse aired on ABC 80, males accessed the online survey over the next two days to report maternal abuse and requested to be interviewed. It must be understood that this type of abuse is possible, does happen, and can do extraordinary damage to its victims. If you are a victim of any type of sexual abuse or assault, reach out to a therapist. There is no need to suffer in silence when help is available. If you are a victim of mother-son incest, clearly articulate your experiences to your therapist. The shame is not yours. Denov, M. S. (2004, October 1). The long-term effects of child sexual abuse by female perpetrators: A qualitative study of male and female victims. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 19(10), 1,137-1,156. doi: 10.1177/0886260504269093 To his credit, there are other half-naked people present, and he's nineteen. Let us not cast judgment on the genitalia of those suffering from excess hormones. [ Image via INF]Talk to your son honestly about your feelings. Try to refrain from using judgmental or accusatory language, which will make him defensive and less likely to consider what you're saying. You want this to be a connecting conversation, not one that makes the distance between you even greater. If he is comfortable dressing in a way that makes him feel like he blends in, I think that is great. However, I want him to have the inner confidence to step out of the box if he wants. If he feels like wearing something, even though none of his peers are, I want him to feel like he can. But then, it continued. (Benefit of doubt: Paparazzi cameras take pictures really fast.) [ Image via INF] Holmes, G. R., Offen, L., & Waller, G. (1997). See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil: Why do relatively few male victims of childhood sexual abuse receive help for abuse-related issues in adulthood?. Clinical Psychology Review, 17(1), 69-88. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9125368 Researcher Lucetta Thomas has identified persistent and damaging myths in regard to male sexual victimization. These myths not only exist in the minds of boys and men who themselves are victims—they are also prevalent in the attitudes and perception of social workers, law enforcement, and even psychologists or counselors (Friedersdorf, 2016). Myths around males and sexual abuse include the following:
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As a society, our views of mothers as nurturers who would never willingly hurt their children may be so ingrained in our psyche that even trained psychologists can be uncomfortable entertaining the idea that sexual abuse can happen between a mother and her son (Osborne, 2015). Why the Silence? Try to see things through the eyes of your son and his spouse. While you may not know where you fit into your son's new life, he may feel the same way. Open communication can clarify your role as a mother-in-law and help both of you find a way forward that everyone is happy with. Our emotional intimate relationship began one night, when I did hear sobbing in her room. she was already in bed, when I came in into I also let him know what someone puts on their body isn’t an invitation, for him or anyone else, ever. And he should always take heed on how he looks at people, especially women. There is a way to look at a woman without staring or gawking. No matter how you see her, she deserves respect. I don’t care what she’s wearing.Here's a moment that will haunt him forever. As commenter sarasasa notes, "having a hot model mom as a teenage boy must be confusing." [ Image via INF] I have to confess, that I always have been infatuated with my mom’s beauty. Since my childhood, I always wanted her in a romantic way. If the boy experiences sexual arousal or pleasure during the abuse, he enjoyed it, and it was not abuse, because he participated. Kelly, R. J., Wood, J. J., Gonzalez, L. S., MacDonald, V., & Waterman, J. (2002). Effects of mother-son incest and positive perceptions of sexual abuse experiences on the psychosocial adjustment of clinic-referred men. Child Abuse & Neglect, 26(4), 425-441. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12092807 That night was the beginning of our relationship, it was emotional first; but, it progressed into sexual shortly after.
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Kluft, R. P. (2011, January 12). Ramifications of incest. Psychiatric Times, 27(12). Retrieved from https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/sexual-offenses/ramifications-incest Regardless, I told him nobody should be judged based on how they dress — not even your very embarrassing mother. Most people wear what they are comfortable in, what makes them feel good. It doesn’t matter where it came from because this isn’t how we judge others. We focus on how they make us feel, if they are kind, how they treat people. I told him judging people for what they wear is very transparent, and he will be missing out on a lot in life if he is going to focus on making friends because of what they wear, what they have, or what they look like.
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Their marriage lasted for ten years, but; my mom divorced him, after finding out that my dad was in reality a bisexual man living a double life style. She discovered that he was having a secret relationship with another woman and a man at the same time; while he was married to my mom.. That was the last straw that broke the marriage, and for more than seven years, my mom was all alone dealing with me. When we examine outcomes of victims of any type of incest, we find this type of abuse is related to issues around relational trauma and betrayal trauma. Abuse by a trusted family member leads to a significant loss of trust and changes in beliefs around the self and safety in relationships (Kluft, 2011). Understandably, when the perpetrator is a mother, the trauma is likely to carry a particularly high level of damage, especially in light of the cultural perceptions of mothers as nurturers. Furthermore, the implications of reporting abuse of this nature can be catastrophic for the victim, the mother, and the entire family. In many cases, this leaves the victim feeling as if he has no choice but to deal with the trauma in silence. What Professionals Need to Know Thanks for your input, an interesting point of view leading me to question the so called sanctity of motherhood. For me, for many like me, motherhood is not something I can take to be sacred or saintly. There are 7bn people on the earth, on average half of them are women… not all of them are going to be good people, balanced people or people who fit into any one other persons world view of right or wrong. Reporting incest and seeking professional help may be both shameful and difficult in any situation, but it can be even more difficult in the case of a mother. Often, the reaction will be complete rejection or disbelief. Unfortunately, the perception of a male monopoly on perpetrating incest has led to the creation of damaging myths that silence the male victim. Males and Sexual Abuse: The Myths When I first saw these amorous images, I thought supermodel Stephanie Seymour had taken a young lover. But—surprise!—that is actually her 18-year-old son. How close is too close when it comes to mothers and sons?
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At least they look like they're having fun. I feel kind of bad intruding on their family beach play day; Stephanie's entire family, including her husband, were present, and none of them seem weirded out. (Note that he retracted his fingers in this picture.) But seriously, is this normal behavior? How close is too close between mother and son? [ Image via INF, tip via james_from_cambridge]Incest (sexual relationships between family members) is taboo and can bring a strong sense of guilt and shame to its victims (Kluft, 2011). While the idea that fathers sexually abuse their children is disturbing, it is accepted as something that can (and does) happen. It is well documented and studied. Lastly, if you yourself find such things distressing, I have to wonder how you came to be reading and posting in this forum ? Jay, I have some words to share. Please [Jay and everybody} take them in the friendly concerned manner in which they are intended. Professionals, particularly those working with sexual abuse cases, need to examine their own perceptions around women as potential abusers. It must be understood that this type of abuse is possible, does happen, and can do extraordinary damage to its victims. In general, many people have been under the impression that a woman cannot really harm another person sexually. This is not the case. As new research surfaces, we are finding that sexual abuse from mother to son can bring lasting trauma and long-term mental health effects (Denov, 2004).
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